Nice Cars and Such

"Car Talk" is a call in radio show where people ask about cars and car repair and lots of other life things.  One day a single woman called in and said, "Is it true that men won't date me because I drive a nice car?"  Well, apparently it depended on how nice a car it was... and it was a NICE one.  And the hosts of the shows said - Yup.  No dates for you.  Get a cheaper car if you want to find a man.

Recently I was in a group of married women who made me feel "less than" because of my nice car.  OK - it's not a real car, but it is something in my personality.  It's something I've heard again and again as a reason to why I have spent a large part of my adult life single.  And basically, I've heard the same thing - Get a cheaper car if you want to find a man.  

Well, after the talk with those women, I really wrestled with it and brought it up to Dave.  I wanted to get to the root of things: why was I feeling so defensive about this area of my life... And is it my fault?  Hasn't God used it?  How do I lessen it?  And although I have "found a man" will this haunt my life and our marriage? Etc., etc., etc...  

And the answer surprised me.  Dave said that having a nice car is a good thing.  He couldn't understand why they and even I were discussing it as something negative.

All my life I've been told that men will be intimidated by the nice car or jealous of or even feel like they are in come competition with the nice car.  I didn't know that there are guys like Dave who see the nice car as an attribute to be complimented.  

I just want to give you hope.  I don't know what your nice car is.  But don't trade it in for a lesser model.  I want you to drive it and enjoy it and leave those men who don't want to ride with you in the dust.